Appreciation should never come with a warning

Originally posted on LinkedIn on 01 Dec 2025

Most “positive feedback” isn’t really positive.
It’s a warning sign.
We hear the compliment…
but our body waits for the real message.
That’s the problem.

When appreciation is used as a soft entry into criticism, trust erodes.
Praise becomes a doorway to something heavier.

Real growth needs the opposite:
Appreciation that stands on its own.
Criticism that arrives honestly, clearly, and without disguise.

Leaders who separate the two build teams that feel safe.
And teams that actually listen.

If you’ve ever felt that “brace for impact” moment, this carousel will make sense.

👇 Full breakdown inside.